If all is hunky dory and your life is flowing along well, you will feel good and not necessarily notice that something is missing in your life. But if, on the other hand you are not experiencing such good things in your life and you don’t have what you want and you’re feeling disenchanted and allowing these things to colour your life’s quality, then you may be feeling out of control. You may feel as if life is just happening to you and that you don’t have a clue as to what you can do to change things so that they can feel consistently better.

You may have tried to take action and hope for the best, and sometimes it worked but sometimes it didn’t. At times when the action you took worked, it may not have lasted very long in changing circumstances and how you feel. When you take action from a place of spiritual misalignment with your Inner Being, the action inevitably will not be very effective. There needs to be an alignment within yourself with the action you seek to take in order for it to work out as you wish. So here you are, wondering why life feels so difficult sometimes……

The reason life feels difficult at times, is that many people are not familiar that they are only partially aware of how the Universe or life works. Not many of us have been taught about our spiritual side which ironically is the most significant part of who we are. It therefore makes complete sense that when you leave out the larger part of who- you- really- are you’re not going to feel whole.

So here’s how it works: We are eternal souls living in a physical body and this soul part is the spiritual part of us that functions vibrationally. In fact the whole Universe functions vibrationally meaning that everything has a vibrational frequency. Everything we see, hear, touch, smell and taste are all vibrational translations of our senses’ perceptions. These frequencies determine how our life feels at any given moment and the range is very wide. The good news is that there are ways we can get to control our frequencies and create our own lives. We have the power to give ourselves anything we desire.

So how do we do this? Step 1 is to become aware. Once you know that you are vibrationally oriented, here are more of the secrets to give yourself a happy life. The Law of Attraction is the most powerful and consistently inclusive Law of the Universe that manages everything that happens. It is inclusive because it works vibrationally and not morally. It doesn’t give you brownie points if you are good or bad points if you err. There is no judgment involved. All that determines the quality of your life are your thoughts and how you feel about them now. Your thoughts carry vibrational frequencies and you always have the power to change them if you are willing to do so. The Teachings of Abraham*(*as channelled by Esther Hicks) tell us that our emotions are our reliable Guidance System and by this they mean that the way we feel is an accurate, second-by-second gauge that indicates to us whether we’re on track or have gone off-piste.

In addition, because the Law of Attraction manages everything that comes to you for better or for worse, this happens because people inadvertently focus on the lack of what they want instead of what they want. So what is meant by this? You might wonder why some people win the lottery and why others don’t……the secret to this is their focus and alignment with their desire. If you feel poor, miserable, frustrated, sick, angry, resentful, jealous, tired, etc. any form of negative feeling, your vibrational frequency does not match that of a winner of a lottery. You are focused on the lack side of the story, the losing side, not the winning side. Your frequency is on negative radio channel MW 103 and the winner’s radio channel is on the AM 94 channel, two completely different frequencies. If you try to justify your wretchedness by saying that a lottery win could solve all your problems and that you are more deserving than anyone else for reasons you find, you continue to be focused on the lack or absence of what you want. The lottery win can never match your vibrations if you are in this negative-feeling mode.

So how can you change your vibrations to match up with those that make you a winner and allow you to feel good? Your focus needs to be on things that make you feel good, that make you feel like a winner even before the actual lottery win comes to you. It is a process of being conscious and guiding your thoughts step-by-step over time until you consistently feel good: You feel appreciation, you look for things deliberately that make you feel good. You give your attention to things, people and events that are positive and inspiring. You seek out uplifting things. You focus on opportunities and don’t bring problems into your radar. Even if negative things happen to you, and inevitably they do, how you handle them, is what is important: You can look at a setback as a problem, or it can be an opportunity for learning something new.

Focus on a problem is a very different vibration to focus on a solution. Wanting the lottery win and not having the lottery money are two completely different vibrational frequencies. The trick is to feel okay despite not having what you want manifested in reality. You can be in a situation, say have a physical condition you don’t want and be in a state of despair or fear, or you can be sick and be in a place of hope and optimism. You have the ability to direct your thoughts in any way you choose. And how you feel at any moment in time shows you if you’re positively focused to feel good or negatively focused to feel bad. If you feel good, continue thinking in this way to feel better and better. The better it gets, the better it’ll be.

If, on the other hand you’re not feeling so hot, it means you Guidance System is working perfectly in indicating to you that you can feel better by changing your thoughts to more positive-feeling ones.

Once you are vibrationally aligned in the region of what you want, it then can come to you with ease. It is easy because you don’t have to know how or when it’ll come. This is the job of the Law of Attraction. Your part is to get up to speed and align with your thoughts and how you feel about what you’re asking for, and the Law of Attraction brings it to you. Ask and it’ll be given when you relax and allow it to come to you.

You can’t control conditions. You can’t control world events, the weather, other people, things that go on in your environment or even in your family home. Your point of power is aligning your thoughts and consequently how you feel about what you’re thinking to good-feeling ones on as consistent a basis as is possible. Get the positive-feeling-momentum going and no matter what happens in your world, you’ll always experience it in a positive way. If you are problem oriented, you’ll attract problems to you. If you’re solution oriented, you’ll find the answers flowing your way. It’s all vibrational and Law of Attraction always, consistently delivers to us the experiences where we have the most momentum flowing, be they positive or negative. What determines what comes to us, is the strength of the vibration, the power of the force of our feelings.

When we are aligned with our spiritual self, our Soul or our Inner Being we feel happy, we feel joyous, we love and we appreciate. We have the knowledge of life at our fingertips, we have clarity of mind and we are filled with energy and a zest for life. This, Abraham calls “being in the Vortex”. When you reach this vibrational alignment, your responses to life feel very different to when you are far removed from who-you-truly-are. Even when so-called problems come into your reality, you won’t experience them as such. Your vibrational setpoint will be on a level of alignment with you Inner Being and from here, you can handle anything. Life is meant to be good. We are here for the purpose of experiencing a good, happy life in freedom and joy. The aim of our life is to grow as an eternal soul and this is something that continues forever.

We are all individuals with many different desires and a one size fits all policy as to how to live our lives just cannot work to make everyone happy. I am a strong believer in following your heart, your intuition or your gut feelings rather than following what others determine is the right path for you.

No-one knows how you feel or what you are thinking and people can only ever give you their opinion from their own point of view. This means that they can only tell you things from what they perceive you to be like from their own perspective of how they see you. This may not necessarily be how you see yourself, so taking advice from other people may not really be the way to go if you want to be happy. Even if you think people are telling you things for your own good, no-one can judge what feels good to you, other than you yourself.

So when you decide that following one career path is not for you, and that you’d like to try and do many different things, I’d say follow your heart! We were born to experience life in all its richness of contrast and diversity and to do as much or as little as we want to feel good. We were not born into this life because we wanted to limit ourselves and prevent us from flourishing. Some people may be accused of being a Jack of all trades and master of none, but some people are dippers and enjoy just dipping in and dipping out of things. Some people don’t like necessarily going into depth on any subject. They enjoy small tastes. It’s like going to a buffet and taking a taste of many foods on offer rather than focusing on one food and eating a plateful of this. Personal preferences are just this: personal choices not to be judged.

Even if you decide you want to simply focus on one subject and become the best that you can become in it because this is your highest joy, then of course no-one can tell you otherwise. Focusing on one subject because it makes you feel happy and fulfilled is a personal choice not to be judged. The yardstick for anything is how it makes you personally feel from within.

We can never do things to please others because we don’t have access to their true feelings and thoughts and anyway, these thoughts and feelings are not constant and are quite often forever changing anyway. This is because people feel differently according to their moods and depending on which mood you catch them in, so will be their perspective on you.

Trying to always control how others feel is an impossible project. There will never be enough action you can take to please anyone all the time. And what happens many a time when you try to please others, you end up feeling unhappy and unfulfilled yourself. All you can ever be is responsible for your own thoughts which you have the power to change at all times.

We were born with emotions that are always our most accurate natural guidance system as to which direction our thoughts are going in determining our happiness in any moment of time. It’s pretty simple: If you’re feeling bad, you’re going against your stream of well-being, so take stock of what you’re thinking and deliberately change your thoughts to better-feeling ones. If you’re feeling good, you’re going in the right direction of bringing happy and good experiences into your life.

A bad feeling always is an opportunity to stop and take stock of what’s going on with you. And then of course taking the next step to replace the bad feeling thoughts with others that feel better and give you some comfort or relief would be your way of controlling and directing your own life. Any thought that feels better on any subject than when you are feeling bad is the direction to go in. Sometimes distracting yourself from the subject you’re focused on that feels bad, is the best course of action. Anything that soothes you and engenders feelings of relief is the way to go.

We are unlimited, abundant beings and have the power to do as much or as little as we choose. When we choose the thing or things we love, and just go for them wholeheartedly, the Universe lines up in wonderful ways to help us achieve our passions and desires. This is how Law of Attraction works. Like things will attract like things. All we need is to know what we want and allow it to happen.

It is not because you choose to do many different things rather than dedicating yourself to one career path that is not a good thing. The problem you cause yourself is in your own modes of thinking: you feel divided about what society says you should do on the one hand, and on the other, what you want to do. You cause a tug-of-war between how you feel and how you want others to feel about you. Your energy splits and you don’t feel happy. You want to do something you feel strongly about and yet you don’t allow yourself the freedom to do it. You know you’ll feel happy doing this thing and yet you won’t allow yourself to do it. You are living a contradiction. Such a choice can never feel good for you because your emotions will always let you know how it feels – and not doing something you really want against your own better judgement can only ever feel bad.

There seems to be a fear that should you go ahead and do what you desire, something bad will come of it. But the fear within you really is what will happen to you if you don’t allow yourself to do what you want. There really is no logical reason ever to not allow yourself to feel good. We evolve and grow as souls in physical bodies no matter what we do in life. Nothing is wrong. It’s all part of the process of our evolution as eternal souls. Feeling good always is the measure by which to guide yourself, for we are here to love our lives and be happy.

When you allow, you feel relaxed and you accept who you are and accept and allow others to be who they are. The act of allowing or accepting feels good. You feel free because you don’t create conditions or experiences you don’t approve of or don’t want. You can only ever feel truly free when you are free of any negative emotions.

When you tolerate however, there are degrees of negative emotion you feel depending upon what you are tolerating and how it makes you feel. Tolerance is conditional acceptance while allowing is unconditional acceptance. When you tolerate, you create standards of behaviour for yourself that you feel you have to live up to in order to let others do what they choose, even if you really disapprove of what they’re doing. There is therefore a tug-of-war feeling going on inside you of observing something you really disapprove of that makes you feel negative motion but having to grin and bear it. Your tolerating can feel good to the person whose actions you are tolerating because you don’t actively hinder or interfere with their behaviours or actions.

But the negative feelings you create inside yourself when you tolerate are not to your advantage at all. You might feel sorry for the person, fearful for them or yourself if they take the action you don’t approve of, yet watch them do it anyway. And when you feel any form of negative emotion, the Law of Attraction will deliver to you more things that you disapprove of and don’t want and don’t feel good about.

Allowing then is what will bring you a feeling of true freedom and when you feel free you are connected to who you really are and can live and let live in joy.

The question is, what are meaningful goals or worthwhile activities?

The experts say that what you find meaningful varies from person to person. According to Positive Psychologist, Tal Ben-Shahar, someone could find meaning in making furniture and another person may find it in volunteering in a homeless shelter.(1) When I heard this, my first thought was that it would be interesting to delve a bit deeper into what makes acitivities such as these meaningful. This article explores my thoughts on this subject.

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1. Activities that are meaningful because they make the physical world a better place

Examples of activities that help make the world a better place:

• Conservation (eg saving rainforests, conserving national parks and nature, ensuring animal safety from extinction/ hunting / harm),
• Activities that help make the world a more beautiful place to live in: eg keeping places clean, well-kept, nurtured, like gardening, street cleaning, park ranging, politicians in charge of maintaining nature in their sections of the world.

Why is it meaningful to look after the planet?

• To secure the Earth’s existence and its resources for future generations (for our children and our children’s children and their survival too).
• To make the world more enjoyable for us to live in (with beautiful nature to enjoy, with amazing animals to appreciate etc).
• Because “all is one” – and appreciation for all living things, and caring for plants and animals is in a way a gateway to opening your heart to love and appreciation for everything. Strong appreciation for nature can be a gateway towards higher levels of consciousness.

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2. Activities that are meaningful because they make people feel happy
Examples of activities that help make other people happy:

• Entertainment:
  - Comedians work, doing stand-up
  - Making enjoyable books, TV shows, movies
• Art: Making enjoyable art & graphic designs
• Music: Making enjoyable music
• Cooking: Making delicious foods for people to enjoy
• Teaching enjoyable hobby classes eg dance
• Doing enjoyable entertainment performances eg acting / circus performers / magicians
• Making products people enjoy (from clothes to building houses, from making soaps & perfumes to doing interior design; from making furniture to building gadgets; and also includes providing services that make life better or more comfortable)
• Talent scouting to find people who are able to make great content that others enjoy. Simultaneously you are making the talented individual happy by making their dream of being discovered and acknowledged come true.
•  Helping people feel healthy (which makes it easier to feel happy) eg doctors, nurses, surgeons, dentists, nutritionists, life coaches, therapists.
• Helping people feel safe (which makes it easier to feel happy) eg police, army, security work
• Helping people feel better about themselves and about the way they look eg stylists, hairdressers, orthodontists, therapists, hypnotherapists, teachers who help you uncover your talents and cleverness.
• Volunteering to help people in difficult positions improve their lives and therefore help them get closer to achieving happiness and well-being (eg helping at a charity, raising money for charities etc).
• Doing self-help exercises to help you feel good eg practising rampages of appreciation and gratitude.

Why is it meaningful to make people happy?

• Uplifting others feels good both to you and to the others. It breeds gratitude, bliss and other positive emotions – and in my opinion, breeding positive feelings in itself is intrinsically meaningful.
• Raising the amount of joy on the planet, in spiritual terms, helps raise the general vibration and consciousness of the whole planet. Some spiritual beliefs state that one of the purposes of human life is to reach higher and higher levels of consciousness.

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3. Activities that are meaningful because they broaden human understanding of the world and themselves
Examples of activities that do this:

• Research in fields that we don’t yet fully understand (eg spirituality, psychology)
• Teaching what we DO know in important subjects, enlightening others to understand themselves and their world better. eg through workshops, lectures, blogs, books, youtube videos and more.
• Meditation can allow self-exploration to increase understanding on personal or universal subjects.

Why is it meaningful to broaden human understanding?

• Broadening human understanding is a type of growth and expansion in a positive direction. Striving to improve and grow is intrinsically meaningful. It’s hard to explain it any further than this. Everyone likes to improve and grow. It’s satisfying, feels good, and leads only to good places.

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4. Activities which are meaningful because they allow us to feel we’ve made our mark on the world:
Examples of activities that do this:

• Having children & grandchildren to carry on our genes

Why is this meaningful?

It makes us feel important and like something of ours will live on even after we die.

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5. Activities which allow us to Experience Love

Experiencing and spreading love (family-love, friend-love, romantic love, even pet-love) is meaningful. Why? Partly because it helps us feel good, but there are other reasons too. Relationships can help us grow and evolve emotionally. They can be a source of fresh ideas, sown into fertile minds, to inspire us to do other meaningful things by making us aware of new things we may not have been aware of had we been completely isolated.

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That’s all I can think of for now. If you can think of any other meaningful activities or general big-umbrella categories for them, I’d love to hear from you in the comments below.

References

(1.) Ben-Shahar, T., 2008. Happier: Learn the Secrets to Daily Joy and Lasting Fulfillment (click here to find it on Amazon.com ; click here to find it on Amazon.co.uk)

(2.) Yahoo Answers on “What is Meaningful to you in Life?”