The Difference between Allowing and Tolerating

The major significant difference between allowing and tolerating is that of the emotion you feel. Allowing or accepting always feels good whilst tolerating does not feel good.

When you allow, you feel relaxed and you accept who you are and accept and allow others to be who they are. The act of allowing or accepting feels good. You feel free because you don’t create conditions or experiences you don’t approve of or don’t want. You can only ever feel truly free when you are free of any negative emotions.

When you tolerate however, there are degrees of negative emotion you feel depending upon what you are tolerating and how it makes you feel. Tolerance is conditional acceptance while allowing is unconditional acceptance. When you tolerate, you create standards of behaviour for yourself that you feel you have to live up to in order to let others do what they choose, even if you really disapprove of what they’re doing. There is therefore a tug-of-war feeling going on inside you of observing something you really disapprove of that makes you feel negative motion but having to grin and bear it. Your tolerating can feel good to the person whose actions you are tolerating because you don’t actively hinder or interfere with their behaviours or actions.

But the negative feelings you create inside yourself when you tolerate are not to your advantage at all. You might feel sorry for the person, fearful for them or yourself if they take the action you don’t approve of, yet watch them do it anyway. And when you feel any form of negative emotion, the Law of Attraction will deliver to you more things that you disapprove of and don’t want and don’t feel good about.

Allowing then is what will bring you a feeling of true freedom and when you feel free you are connected to who you really are and can live and let live in joy.

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