Source: Phoenix, Dec. 2013.

Most feelings are made up of 2 factors:
1.) Desire
2.) Resistance to that desire

For example:
- Passion = Strong desire + No Resistance
- Contentment / Peacefulness = Not much desire + No Resistance
- Boredom = not much desire + a little resistance
- Frustration / Anger / Guilt / Depression = Strong Desire + Strong Resistance
- Clarity = desire (to know) + no resistance

Isn’t that interesting and fun to know? ^_^

Nevousness is a manifestation and an emotional indicator.

When you’re in the place of nervousness, it is an emotional indicator that vibrationally you are not expectant of the thing you want.

Nervousness is when there is doubt as to whether the thing you want will come or not. There isn’t certainty that the good thing is coming.

Nervousness is an active vibration that is to the contrary of what is wanted ie it means you have activated some focus of “what you do not want” along with “what you do want”. You have split focus. The ratio of focus may differ but if you’re mostly feeling nervousness, perhaps the ratio is skewed in the direction of “doubt and fear that it’s not coming” than in that “it’s coming”.

Nervousness means you are not entirely ready for what you want.

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How do you come to be in a place of nervousness?

It is when you observe in your life experience that things don’t go your way, and then form a belief that “things don’t always go my way”.

This old beliefs could have been formed yesterday, last year, in your childhood etc… but that you are keeping active now.

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How to overcome habits of nervousness

If you’ve trained yourself into reacting nervously to situations, and it’s become a habit, how do you get out of this habit?

By deliberately practising new vibrational patterns and then watching the outcome of it until you show yourself that you have vibrational control.

Think about what you want more.
Appreciate the idea of what you want more – allow yourself to feel good about it.
Imagine what you want; what it would look like; what it would feel like. Prepave it.
Prepare yourself for what you want (eg if you want to be called to the Abraham Hot Seat, prepare yourself by dressing for the part etc coz you know if you’re picked people will see you more in the spotlight).
The more you pre-pave what you want, the less hindering the old negative beliefs will be.

Reference:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=n0lJj_rC2zU

Though most people think of loneliness as “the absense of people you connect with in your life”, feeling lonely is not really a matter of “being lonely for other people”.

In actuality, the feeling of loneliness occurs when you have (temporarily) separated yourself from who-you-really-are.

You are lonely for your own connection with your own Source-Self. If you’re ever lonely, it’s for your own connection, not for other people.

The feeling of loneliness is the evidence that you are not allowing yourself to be the receiver of so much that is flowing to you.

Trying to find somebody that gets you, is looking in all the wrong places because it’s not their job to get you, accept you or validate you.
It’s *your* job to get yourself, accept yourself and validate yourself.

Loneliness is felt most acutely when you’ve spent some time at a high vibration, being aligned (and therefore more connected to your Inner Being), and then you find yourself outside the Vortex. And now, outside the Vortex, you notice the disconnect and the discomfort is what you interpret as an emptiness or a loneliness. You’re lonely for your alignment; for your vortexy self.

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How to overcome feeling of loneliness:

- Let go of resistance and negative beliefs regarding being on your own. Soothe the voice that says that “being alone is not ok” with soft words of ease, kindness, softness and relief.

- Catch and pivot thoughts away from thoughts like: “I feel so alone” or “I wish I had someone” or “nobody loves me”. Thoughts like these and focusing on these kinds of feelings, is the reason that sometimes you feel alone and they just let this negative feeling gain momentum. Stop thinking the thoughts that make you feel alone or that make you feel anything less than “love”.

- Abraham say that you do not overcome loneliness through finding people to fill the void. You never did want to fill that void with other people. That is truly looking for love in all the wrong places. That’s looking for alignment in all the wrong places. Instead, look for your own alignment with your own Source, with your own Inner Being.
When you find alignment, you’re happy and not lonely even when you are by yourself.
Incidentally, when you find alignment you are also happy when you are with others.
When you’re aligned you feel good unconditionally, no matter whether you’re with people or not.

- Reach for connecting with your full Source Self: You do this by gradually raising your vibration, spending more time in alignment and tapping into how Source feels about everything around you – which is always very very feel-good.
When you are really in alignment, you are blended with the whole of who you are, and that is the opposite of lonely. That’s full!

- Remind yourself that you are Source energy in physical form, and Source energy is something BIG. Source energy is the opposite of “alone”. Source energy is “everyone and everything together”. So you are never alone because you have your Inner Being with you always; Source is always with you, and all that’s within Source (which includes all the energies of all the Source collective consciousness that ever was and is). So even when you are physically in a room by yourself, spiritually you are always part of a big whole, and therefore are never alone in a spiritual sense. It is impossible for you to ever be alone because you ARE Source energy and that connection is always thre even if you don’t feel it. Your Inner Being / Source is always there, loving you, caring about you, wanting the best for you, guiding you and rooting for you.

- Practice: Practice feeling good. Practice positive thoughts. Practice tuning to Source. Practice acknowledging you have an Inner Being and Source. Practice yourself into a higher vibration whre you are incapable of feeling lonely.

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Side Note: All this talk of “you’re never alone even when you’re by yourself” doesn’t mean you should strive to be alone more and that you shouldn’t seek out people ever. Abraham say:
“We’re not trying to talk you into being alone.
We just want you to understand that you don’t need to be
with anyone else to have full alignment.
And in full alignment, others who have full alignment will join you.”

What is worry according to Abraham Hicks?

• Worry is when you want something – but are thinking about possibilities that are in opposition of it.
  (eg you want to be safe, you want to succeed, you want to make sure you get that thing you want, you want to be liked… but are thinking something in opposition of those)
• Worry is: “I want this but… I want this but…”
• Worry is an indicator of where you are on the emotional guidance scale.
• Worry is an emotional indicator that you’re focused on thoughts that don’t feel good. Your worry leads to an emotion that’s saying “This thought isn’t helping”.
• So, if worry tells you that your thought isn’t serving you, worry can be seen as an emotional indicator to ease up and soothe yourself
• Worry is an emotional indicator that you may be slowing down the momentum on what you *do* want.
• Worry is an indicator that on this particular subject, you have some beliefs that you need to soothe and do some work on.
  Worry may be the tip of the iceberg, and underneath it are other breliefs that need work. For example, behind a worry about public speaking there may be a fear of failure; or behind a worry about being late for something may be a fear of upsetting or displeasing others; so every layer of the onion would benefit from being soothed to make them “less of a big deal” and to make the whole situation easier on you.

How to deal with worry & how to overcome it:

• Soothe the worries:
  It can be helpful to reach for soothing words that talk yourself down from the worry. You know you’re doing it right when your soothing thoughts lead to feelings of relief.
  Examples soothing phrases:
  - maybe the worst won’t happen
  - even if this goes wrong, it’s not *that* important – I’ll still survive
  - maybe it’ll turn out ok
  - maybe I’ll do well in this
  - people have done this before and have been ok, so I could too.
• Shift your focus to better-feeling thoughts:
  Focus less specifically on that worry of what could go wrong. Instead, shift your focus in a better feeling direction. Try to focus on:
  - what is working,
  - what can work
  - what the best case situation can be
• Recall positive memories:
  Recall times well things go well (for you or for others). Recall times when everything usually works out just fine. It is rare that something goes wrong.
• Positive affirmations:
  Sometimes these can work, for example:
  - No matter what, I will work it out.
• Practice:
  Practice self-soothing, positive focus and the above techniques more and more over time.
  The first time you do it, it may be tricky to come up with the words but the more you do it the better you get at it.
  The more you do it the  better you get at reducing worry over time.
• Shift your focus to something else entirely:
  If thoughts on the subject are too charged and there’s too much momentum going about them so that every time you try to think of the positive end of the stick you still feel some discomfort because it’s still activating the “unwanted” end of the stick, then either shift your focus onto something else entirely or take drastic action like:
  - Take a nap
  - Go to sleep for the day
  - Go meditate

The result of taking these steps to overcome worry is that you:

• Train your Faith that everything is working out for you (even before you see evidence of this).
•  Train your optimism. Your Source knows that what you want is “there” if you just line up with the wanted end of the stick rather than with the unwanted. The vibration of the positive end of the stick is there – you just have to train yourself to hear it more often. This takes desire and a willingness to try.
• Train your vibration consistently to vibrate at a better-feeling place. The happier you are more consistently, the less you worry.

For example: Let’s say someone is afraid of getting into a relationship.
Their fear lets them know that their point of attraction is on what they don’t want to happen if they are in a relationship.
For example, maybe when they think of relationships ,the dominant thoughts and focus are on things like:
- losing freedom
- obligation to do stuff you dont want
- etc.
Because their focus is dominantly on the “what I don’t want” end of the stick, they feel fear when they think of getting into a relationship.

Any bad feeling, like fear, tells you that you are focused on a subject in a way that’s different from what your Source knows about how that experience can be when it’s all working out for you.
Let’s get back to the relationship example:
Your Source knows a relationship can be wonderful. Your Source knows all about the “positive end of the stick” aspects of getting in a relationship: the delicious feelings of togetherness, belonging, acceptance, love, fun, flow, companionship, co-creative joy etc.
Because you have Source within you, there is a vibrational version of you whose focus is all the “wanted” things, and that therefore doesn’t feel fear when it’s focused on this subject.

How to overcome fear?
So you understand what fear is, but how do you overcome it?

1.) Acknowledge that there is a part of you, the Source part of you, that is not afraid of the thing in question, and sees all the positive aspects of the thing.

2.) Acknowledge that the positive end of the stick exists

3.) Focus on the positive things on the subject and allow some momentum to gather about these.

“Find little pieces of something, that feel entirely different than fear. And we´d practice them, until they are so active in our vibration, that even “scary” things don´t scare you! “
- Chicago 6/4/11, from the clip “Abraham Hicks: desires to move through fear”

eg in terms of relationships, acknowledge that there’s a positive end of the stick – wanted things, like flow, fun, steadiness, a feeling of acceptance, love, home, safety, security, belonging, togetherness etc etc.

4.) Soothe the negative beliefs on this subject. Try to find reasons why the negative things might not happen, why they might not be true. Is it possible that they won’t happen? Katie Byron likes to ask of fears “is it *really* true?” Does it have to be true? Is there any case in which the negative thing might not happen?

5.) Practice your new positive thoughts to turn them into a more positive belief: As you catch yourself thinking a negative thought on the subject you are fearful of, pivot yourself into a more positive place; catch yourself and pivot repeatedly, you start to train yourself into a new habit of behaviour that is more in tune with your true inner guidance and feels better. Practise, practise, practise!

Note: If in your “work” to focus positively you notice discomfort, or if you find thoughts that ares “off in the bushes” steer your thoughts in an easier-feeling, more believable-feeling, better-feeling place.
Sometimes it’s a good idea to get off the topic and come back to it when you’re in a fresh, clearer mood; starting from a different vibrational set-point, so try working on feeling better on this subject when you’re in the vibrational place that’s more open to working on it.
(Until then, maybe focus on other subjects )

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References:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wu6YlRvHGUE

I just listened to this great Abraham Hicks recording about how to raise your vibration and thought I’d sum up the take-home method here:

1.) Acknowledge to yourself that you have the power to change your vibration
You can do this by making affirming Statements of your power:
- My vibration is indicated to me by the emotions that I feel to help me know when it’s time to work on raising my vibration.
- The non-ideal vibration I’m on right now is not a big deal because
- I have control over my vibration; I can change this vibration any time I want.
- My vibration is controlled by the thoughts I think.
My vibration is effected by my focus.
- Yes, it’s a gradual process to change my vibration, but it’s alright, I’m on my way to raising my vibration. Seeing progress (via the things I interact with and manifest) is fun.

2.) Make the intention to put your focus on thoughts and things more deliberately.

3.) Slow down momentum on negative thoughts when they come up by:
- introducing soothing thoughts
- Don’t engage in conversations about things you want to inactivate. If you hear others talking about it, don’t join in.
- lack of attention to negative thoughts (eg stop talking about what you dont want) and pivoting to other things.
- When you catch yourself going a negative thought and catch it – appreciate the catching with thoughts like “I’m getting better at this deliberate thinking thing! I’m slowing down momentum on things I dont want better and better.”
- Be easy with yourself if you catch yourself thinking something you dont want to think. (Being mad at yourself / resisting doesnt help – it makes things worse). Be kind, understanding, soothing to yourself.

4.) Try to pay attention to feel-good moments – notice them more, then milk them
Rather than MAKING yourself feel better (which is efforting) – it may be easier to wait till a moment when you do feel better and milk it.
When you find yourself feeling good (which happens every day for at least a moment) – then be aware when you’re having one of those moments, and then milk it. Milking a positive vibration is practising that vibration. And the more you practice it , the easier it is to sustain it.
Example of a way to milk a positie moment: explain to yourself why it feels good.
eg I think I’m feeling good because my chair is so comfy, and the air is so warm and pleasant, and I’m feeling comfortable in my body; my stomach is satisfied to just the right amount, and i have pretty things around me – see how pretty object X is? and see how great object Y is? etc etc
Practice this feeling to know it thoroughly.

5.) Reach for better feeling thoughts:
- Thoughts of appreciation – milking the positive things in the world around you
- Thoughts of wanted things
- Memories of good times you’ve had in the past
- Hold focus on a positive word.
- Hold focus on a positive feeling eg Ease, Appreciation
- Thoughts of eagerness for what’s to come: eg
I’m eager to see what inspiration will come when my vibration riases; i’m eager to line up with what source thinks – curious to know what it thinks! i’m eager to see what interactions and manifestations i’ll have when my vibration raises
- Thoughts that activate new beliefs that serve you

(Related to the previous point)
6.) Use positive intentions & affirmations if you resonate with them
- eg “wouldn’t it be nice if…”
- eg Affirmations for connecting with Source and with the fullness that is you, like:
“I want to know the fullness of who I am.
So, guide me closer in any step today, to a fuller recognition
of what I´ve been asking for, and who I really am.”

7.) Put your focus on positive things by engaging in activities that feel good and automatically make it easier to make your vibration softer and better-feeling.
Spend time doing things that raise your vibration:
- pet your dog
- go for a walk in nature
- take a soothing shower or bath
- do things that soften your vibration and raise it; take you to a softer place -
All these help the feel-good vibration gather momentum.

8.) Use Meditation to gather positive momentum:
Once you’ve taken a few steps to get onto a slightly better feeling disc / vibration, use meditation to anchor that feeling for longer to help you stay on that disc for longer and to help that better-feeling-vibration gain momentum.
The more momentum the better-feeling vibration has, the more the details will fill in – the more inspiration will come. The better it gets, the better it gets.

When you dislike an activity, it’s usually because you’re possibly thinking resistant thoughts when you do it. (eg “This isn’t going well, I’m rubbish at this, why can’t I do it better?” etc)

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Source:
Just read this post by WellBeing on the Abe Forum and had an aha moment when I read this bit: “The action isn’t why you love it. You love it because you’re not usually thinking your resistant thoughts when you do it. That’s why it feels like love to you.“

Just quiet your mind and do it long enough to allow your vibration to raise to the vibration of who you really are and then all the insights will flow to you.

You know you’re going in the right direction if the method you are using to quiet your mind feels good. If it doesn’t feel good, then something in your approach should probably be pivoted.

To people who say “How long are we meant to meditate for and work on getting into the receiving mode before we get our things?” Abraham say: “if you’re putting a time-limit on how long you’re gonna do this [getting into the receiving mode] before you´re getting to this [your stuff that you want], then you’re not really doing this the way we’re encouraging you to do this! ”

Care about how you feel rather than focusing on trying to make something happen.

2.) Get into a Relaxed, Chilled out state
The key to getting into the receiving mode is to Relax and Chill out.

As POE says in the Abe forums: “When you skip up and down, asking fretfully “when will it come?? WHEN WILL IT COME???” you are NOT chilled out”.

Be aware not to effort and not to let in resistance. Don’t be so overly cautious. Stop judging yourself. Don’t try so hard. Take the path of least resistance. It’s meant to be easy.

As POE says: “Be open, be relaxed, and keep yourself happy with EASY, but still interesting things.”

3.) Making peace with What Is
Tune in to a state of appreciation for the good stuff in your present moment. Appreciate the good in what has come and in What Is. Because there is nothing that slows down more things coming, than focusing on not being happy with where you are.

Don’t look at the bad stuff in your present What Is. Look at the good stuff in your present What Is.

And learn to love the “eternally incomplete”-ness of every moment on the journey. Because we are always eternally incomplete. There is always more to reach for. There is always more. Make peace with that. As Tenshi says in the Abe forums, finding the joy in being eternally incomplete is ” like reading a good book and not wanting it to finish.”

4.) Aim for pivoting yourself towards feeling better and better
The better you feel, the more in the Receiving Mode you are. So reach for a better feeling thought – and better and better to help you get into the Receiving Mode.
If you want a fast stream towards receiving, allow yourself to get into a place of appreciation and vortexy feelings.
As POE says in the Abe Forums: “Praise more, look around more (with loving, friendly eyes!), appreciate more. That´s an art to discover, and get good at!”

References:
- http://www.abeforum.com/showthread.php?41818-The-real-way-to-the-receptive-mode
- Some Abe youtube videos

(Abraham have suggested other plans in the past too, such as Plan 1 which I wrote about in a previous article. You can pick whichever plan resonates most with you : ) )

Here is the Night-and-Morning-Routine-Plan the described:

1.) At night, take a moment to feel good before dropping off to sleep

When you’re about to go to bed, bask; appreciate the fabric of your bedding; notice the pleasant feeling of your body as your muscles relax and everything relaxes as you’re lying in bed.. Appreciate the softness of the pillow.. the cosy, comfortable warmth..  and drift off to sleep pleasantly

2.) Upon waking, find something positive to think about

Wake up in the morning and whilst you’re still in bed, the first thing you do is reach for pleasant thoughts; focus on something that feels good and milk it to get you tuned into pleasant vibes right away.

3.) Do a focus wheel

Get out of bed – do whatever you do first thing in the morning (breakfast / brushing teeth etc), and then when you’re feeling ready to start your day and are still feeling pretty good, do a focus wheel on anything that bothers you even in the slightest that you want to work on to get it to a beter place.  Initially thinking of “something to work on” may not feel good, but as you do the focus wheel, you get back to feeling better and simultaneously help work out the kinks of a belief you’ve been holding (=the subject of the focus wheel).

4.) Do a rampage of appreciation

In your Book of Positive Aspects, do a list of positive aspects or a rampage of appreciation about one or two things to get yourself in a good mood.

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That’s it! Now go about your day as normal, reinforced with good vibes. Now this doesn’t guarantee that every day will be perfect necessarily, but it gives you your best chance to start your day on a feel-good foot.

Do this for 30 days and overall, you will help to train yourself to a better vibration, you will probably work ou some stuff on the focus wheels, training yourself to look at old issues in a more positive light, and you will help change your point of attraction so that more and more good things come to you.

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Reference:

Abraham talk from this youtube video (described the last minute or so of the talk) : Source: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ul7QRIuVP9Y