For example: Let’s say someone is afraid of getting into a relationship.
Their fear lets them know that their point of attraction is on what they don’t want to happen if they are in a relationship.
For example, maybe when they think of relationships ,the dominant thoughts and focus are on things like:
- losing freedom
- obligation to do stuff you dont want
- etc.
Because their focus is dominantly on the “what I don’t want” end of the stick, they feel fear when they think of getting into a relationship.

Any bad feeling, like fear, tells you that you are focused on a subject in a way that’s different from what your Source knows about how that experience can be when it’s all working out for you.
Let’s get back to the relationship example:
Your Source knows a relationship can be wonderful. Your Source knows all about the “positive end of the stick” aspects of getting in a relationship: the delicious feelings of togetherness, belonging, acceptance, love, fun, flow, companionship, co-creative joy etc.
Because you have Source within you, there is a vibrational version of you whose focus is all the “wanted” things, and that therefore doesn’t feel fear when it’s focused on this subject.

How to overcome fear?
So you understand what fear is, but how do you overcome it?

1.) Acknowledge that there is a part of you, the Source part of you, that is not afraid of the thing in question, and sees all the positive aspects of the thing.

2.) Acknowledge that the positive end of the stick exists

3.) Focus on the positive things on the subject and allow some momentum to gather about these.

“Find little pieces of something, that feel entirely different than fear. And we´d practice them, until they are so active in our vibration, that even “scary” things don´t scare you! “
- Chicago 6/4/11, from the clip “Abraham Hicks: desires to move through fear”

eg in terms of relationships, acknowledge that there’s a positive end of the stick – wanted things, like flow, fun, steadiness, a feeling of acceptance, love, home, safety, security, belonging, togetherness etc etc.

4.) Soothe the negative beliefs on this subject. Try to find reasons why the negative things might not happen, why they might not be true. Is it possible that they won’t happen? Katie Byron likes to ask of fears “is it *really* true?” Does it have to be true? Is there any case in which the negative thing might not happen?

5.) Practice your new positive thoughts to turn them into a more positive belief: As you catch yourself thinking a negative thought on the subject you are fearful of, pivot yourself into a more positive place; catch yourself and pivot repeatedly, you start to train yourself into a new habit of behaviour that is more in tune with your true inner guidance and feels better. Practise, practise, practise!

Note: If in your “work” to focus positively you notice discomfort, or if you find thoughts that ares “off in the bushes” steer your thoughts in an easier-feeling, more believable-feeling, better-feeling place.
Sometimes it’s a good idea to get off the topic and come back to it when you’re in a fresh, clearer mood; starting from a different vibrational set-point, so try working on feeling better on this subject when you’re in the vibrational place that’s more open to working on it.
(Until then, maybe focus on other subjects )

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References:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wu6YlRvHGUE

(Abraham have suggested other plans in the past too, such as Plan 1 which I wrote about in a previous article. You can pick whichever plan resonates most with you : ) )

Here is the Night-and-Morning-Routine-Plan the described:

1.) At night, take a moment to feel good before dropping off to sleep

When you’re about to go to bed, bask; appreciate the fabric of your bedding; notice the pleasant feeling of your body as your muscles relax and everything relaxes as you’re lying in bed.. Appreciate the softness of the pillow.. the cosy, comfortable warmth..  and drift off to sleep pleasantly

2.) Upon waking, find something positive to think about

Wake up in the morning and whilst you’re still in bed, the first thing you do is reach for pleasant thoughts; focus on something that feels good and milk it to get you tuned into pleasant vibes right away.

3.) Do a focus wheel

Get out of bed – do whatever you do first thing in the morning (breakfast / brushing teeth etc), and then when you’re feeling ready to start your day and are still feeling pretty good, do a focus wheel on anything that bothers you even in the slightest that you want to work on to get it to a beter place.  Initially thinking of “something to work on” may not feel good, but as you do the focus wheel, you get back to feeling better and simultaneously help work out the kinks of a belief you’ve been holding (=the subject of the focus wheel).

4.) Do a rampage of appreciation

In your Book of Positive Aspects, do a list of positive aspects or a rampage of appreciation about one or two things to get yourself in a good mood.

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That’s it! Now go about your day as normal, reinforced with good vibes. Now this doesn’t guarantee that every day will be perfect necessarily, but it gives you your best chance to start your day on a feel-good foot.

Do this for 30 days and overall, you will help to train yourself to a better vibration, you will probably work ou some stuff on the focus wheels, training yourself to look at old issues in a more positive light, and you will help change your point of attraction so that more and more good things come to you.

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Reference:

Abraham talk from this youtube video (described the last minute or so of the talk) : Source: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ul7QRIuVP9Y

If you get a special discount when you buy something, instead of saying “I got a discount.” milk it more by seeing if you believe it when you say, “I get discounts / I’m pretty good at getting discounts / Discounts come my way easily”

If you are wanting to gain customers, and you get a curious person come to check you out, instead of saying  “I got a call from some curious person.” Try saying, “I’m getting calls from potential customers!”

What happens to all the stuff we put in The Vortex as it grows and evolves? and do we consciously remember and know about everything that’s in our vortex?

I really liked this piece by AbeForum member, Cosmic, about better understanding how The Vortex works when we put stuff into it. Cosmic says:

“From outside the vortex, you might be aware of individual ‘preferences’ you have created. From inside the vortex, they can look different. [...] Abraham often say you may not even be able to identify the contents of your vortex, from outside the vortex. Because it has been changing and updating as you have.

The more you focus on the essence of your desire (the emotion)
The more you allow yourself to realise its *form* (the physical see it, hear it, smell it, taste it, touch it)
But when you focus on the form you *think* it should have from outside the vortex (I want to be a piano player and I’m aware that I’m not)
The more you hold yourself to where you are.
Let the form fill in.”

(Here’s a link to the original post: http://www.abeforum.com/showthread.php?43466-Learning-New-Skills&p=958313&viewfull=1#post958313 )

Based on my understanding of Abraham Hicks teachings, I think unhappiness can have several potential origins:

•  It could be old issues and negative beliefs that haven’t been entirely pivoted / shifted, and that still have some momentum behind them. These can come to the surface when you have vibrational moments when you’re vibrating at lower levels that are in tune with these unhappy thoughts.
• New fears / doubts that may pop up if your vibration is wobbly. These thoughts can be inspired by contrast you observe in your life experience and in the life experience of those around you.
•  Vibrating on lower levels in general (through not tending to your vibration), so you pick up lower-level thoughts and feelings more often.
• Focusing on the unwanted end of the stick
•  Focusing on the uncomfortable gap between what you want and where you are
•  The discomfort you feel when your thoughts don’t match what your inner being knows to be true
•  The discomfort of resisting “what is”

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Many people who practice feeling good say it’s easier to stay positive when they’re by themselves, but harder amongst people.

How do you prevent yourself from getting sucked into other people’s negativity?

Step 1: First practice feeling good on your own
If you can already do this consistently, you are doing very well! If you still need to practice this some more, then put in the practice of watching your thoughts, pivoting negativity towards positivity and engaging in self-soothing self-talk.

Step 2: Recognise that we attract to ourselves situations which are in tune with our vibrations
Even if you think you’ve mastered “Step 1″, when you’re with people, often the people around us provide a mirror that shows us something we didn’t realise was there. We attract to ourselves situations with are in tune with some vibration that we’ve got active inside ourselves, so if we’re attracting a person into our experience who is telling us a negative story, the only reason we were able to attract this experience is because we have some cleaning up to do of our vibration still. So take it as a welcome flag that can help you refine your vibration to better and better levels. As Abraham tell us, people around us help us to expand and grow, and I think this is partly because they show us things we still have to work on vibrationally.

Step 3: Practice feeling good when with people
After you’ve practiced feeling good on your own and have got a pretty good handle of that, the next “level up” is practising to maintain your positivity in the presence of others.

To carry out this training intentionally, choose a time you want to practice. Then before entering a room with people, go in with the pre-paved intention that you will watch your thoughts, words and feelings for the next 30mins or 1 hour. (I say “for 30 mins or 1 hour” to start small, because in my experience it can be tricky keeping your focus and concentration, consciously watching your thoughts and pivoting them for long periods of time when you’re not used to it. As you become more advanced, you can do it for longer periods of time and eventually all the time).

When you’re in the group environment, be very conscious of your feelings. You’ll start noticing feeling-responses to what others say. You then have a couple of choices:

a.) Practice not engaging emotionally:
Without judgement, listen, observing how the words feel in your body. If something doesn’t feel good, at that moment, you can aknowledge in your mind that your inner being doesn’t agree with it, and this can help you not get caught up with the words emotionally. Once you feel your body resisting to a statement, with consciousness you can observe the resistance, breathe it out and let it go. It’s a silent watching and recognising that the words don’t have to have an emotional impact on you if you realise they are not true. This is the Eckhart Tolle-esque approach of “being very conscious”, conscious enough to not let yourself get carried away by other people’s thought-forms. At best, this will help you not get sucked in but probably would keep you more or less neutral in vibration.
Personally I prefer a more active approach that has more feel-good power to it – see option (b.).

b.) Practice pivoting with the person
Engage in conversation with the storyteller who is telling a negative story and *help them to pivot the story* out loud. Offer soothing words to counter their story to bring the whole conversation to a better-feeling place.
By doing this you are doing a positive service both to yourself and to the person who’s telling the story. You can help act as their guide, bringing them to awareness about their story.
Warning: In my experience, initially, your discomfort with the negative story can lead you to pivot them in a way which comes across as angry / aggressive / snappy.. because at first you may still have some discomfort and some resistance to their story which can manifest in a negatively-emotionally-charged response from you – but with continued practice, you can learn to train yourself to offer soothing words in a soft, gentle way that feels good both to you and the person you’re with.

c.) Put a stop to the conversation if it doesn’t feel good:

Leave a conversation if it doesn’t feel good. Sometimes it can be too much for us to handle and we don’t know what to say or do and can feel ourselves getting emotionally dragged into someone else’s negative story. In that case, because how *you* feel is the most important thing, the best thing you could do is take yourself out of the situation until you are ready to practice again, where you can try to carry out options (a.) or (b.). Polite ways to leave the conversation could be:
- Change the subject to a more pleasant subject
- Apologise and take your leave

Precursor step: Be honest with yourself

It important to be honest with yourself. Lots of people say they want to win “because it’ll be fun” – but this statement can sometimes be a “denial” of  the real truth, which is usually that people have some sort of strong want or need for the money beyond a light and breezy “it’ll be fun”. The more honest you are with yourself, the more you can address any points that need fine-tuning to iron them out and get you lined up with the results you want.

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Step 1: Identify whether a specific method of winning is important to you or if you really just desire the money

As WellBeing from the AbeForum put it in an old forum post:
“[Be] aware which piece of your story… is “the game” piece of it and which is “the money” piece.”

People often say they want to specifically win the lottery – but is that really true? Or are they REALLY wanting what winning the lottery will get them: living a luxurious, abundance-filled, money-rich lifestyle where money is always available to accomodate the ability to buy anything you ever dreamt of?

Is it the specific “winning of the lottery” that’s the dream, or something else further down the line?

If the luxurious, abundant-money lifestyle is the ultimate goal, then being flexible and general about the way it comes to you can help the universe manifest this abundance. If you relax about the specific method it manifests, then the result can come to you in unexpected ways that delight and surprise you that perhaps you wouldn’t have ever considered before. Who knows, you may suddenly discovered you’re actually the long-lost relative of some royal from a distant land and inherit his fortune – who knows!

As AbeForum member Positive Pamela puts it well:

“I know that the universe will bring money to me in the best, least resistance way.”

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Step 2: Clean up your vibration about “The Exciting Game”

The thing about competitions, lotteries, raffles, and games, is that traditionally, in non-deliberate-manifestation terms, no-one knows who will win, and this is part of the excitment of it. It’s part of what gives people thrills and even joy. ”Will I win? Won’t I win? Ahh! It’s so exhilarating!”

But if you want a sure thing of winning, this vibration you have going of “ahh will I win?? I like the excitement of hoping I’ll win but I’m not sure if I’ll win.. I hope so!” is inconsistent with the vibration of “I’m going to win for sure. I’m a winner.”

If you want to win for sure, I feel like it’s important to focus on the “I’m a winner” vibe and let go of the need for that old suspense. Decide that you’re going to deliberately manifest a result, and line up with that belief rather and train yourself away from the old suspenseful excitement that is probably not helping you win.

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Step 3:  Before testing out your winning alignment with high stakes, train first with no stakes
Take big money gambles off the table whilst you’re still learning how to manifest things. Start small and build your confidence in your abiity to manifest wins gradually. Once you’ve mastered the art of manifesting wins with no big money stakes on the line, then move up to testing it out with small money stakes if you wish, and go from there.

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Step 4:  Soothe away fears of losing

You don’t want to focus on the “losing end of the stick” because focus on it keep it active, but at the same time, I feel like if there are worries or fears about losing bubbling beneath the surface, it may be worth spending a *short* amount of time soothing fears of losing.

eg “It’s only $X I’ve invested.. no big deal..” Or in the case of a sport “It’s only a game at the end of the day.. life will go on just fine either way.. although it’d be so nice to see us win!”

Get to a place where you’re more easy about it – where you’re not offering a strong energy of resistance to losing. (because offering a strong energy on this end of the stick can activate the losing energy).

Once you’ve soothed these kinds of thoughts and genuinely feel soothed, pivot as quickly as you can to the “winning end of the stick” to make this the dominant point of focus.

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Step 5: Train your beliefs into believing you will win:

To train this belief, there are 2 parts:

a.) Train out doubt by soothing it away in a believable way.
As WellBeing from the AbeForum puts it:
“soothe and shift the aspects which are right now unwanted by you.”
You can use the laws of the Universe to help.

b.) Train a stronger belief:

There are two relevant stories here to train your belief on:
(i.) The “I am a winner story” (“I can win.. I will win BIG.. I am a winner..”)
(ii.) and the “an abundant, wealthy, rich, luxurious lifestyle is within my reach” story.

You can break down the big topic of “winning” into smaller manageable pieces, and work on each part separately. This can sometimes feel more easy to work with, and may help you discover little hidden pockets of resistance that pop up on a specific topic which you can then clean up vibraitonally to get you closer to your end-goal.
(Examples of hidden pockets of resistance that you may have to soothe could include: “but if I win my friends and family may be jealous.. but if I win I’ll have to move houses and that’s a lot of work..” etc etc.)

Things that can help you train yourself into believing in yourself as a winner include:

• General statements that support your belief (as long as they feel believable and good to you)
• Specific statements that support your belief (as long as they feel believable and good to you)
• Visualizations
• - If you’re set on a particular method of winning, visualize what the JOURNEY of winning looks like to you in the most ideal, perfect case
• - If you’re set on a particular method of winning, visualize what the MOMENT of winning looks like to you, in the most ideal, perfect case

AbeForum member serenity2000 gave a good example of a positive visualization, she said:

“I visualized us standing in front of the lottery counter, waiting for the ticket to process, hearing the person at the register tell us we’d won, and my husband and I hugging, laughing, celebrating our win. And that’s how it happened!
Visualize the situations you’d like to experience while you bet. Picture the fun of hitting the button if you’re doing it online or standing in a queue, chatting with someone who takes a shine to you and shares a tip which you decide to bet on just for the fun of it. The look of amazement, glee, joy and immense gratitude on your face when you hear the tip paid off.”

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Step 6: Train your vibrational high up so that it’s in the vicinity of allowing a win to come your way

Things that can help train your vibration to a higher place include:

• Make peace with where you are right now vibrationally whilst being eager for more. Be easy and kind to yourself even if you spot you’re not feeling at the vibrational place you want to be in. Where-ever you are right now, it’s alright because you can shift your vibration upwards, so where you are right now is ok because it’s only temporary and you can improve it with some Abe work and practice. If you have tried to win something and haven’t won yet, soothe that feeling too by knowing that the past does not effect your future. You can deliberately intend and set up conditions to work out favourably in the future.
• Meditation
• Spending your time and focus on feel-good things
• Seeking out fun
• Seeking out appreciation
•  Visualize the lifestyle you want: By familiarizing your vibration with the lifestyle of your dreams, you align your vibration with it.

* Only bet and buy tickets when you’re feeling vibrationally very good *

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An experience from AbeForum member Positive Pamela on this subject:

“I have found that when I am in a really good mood and already happy before I log in and bet on a few (horse) races, I have much better luck and tend to win more often or get good winning streaks. When I need to work on my vibration, I know better than to make any bets.”

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So get out there, start training your positive beliefs and train yourself into a steady, consistent winning, feel-good state, and start your winning streak! Let’s put this Abe theory to the test!

There’s this quote from an Abraham Hicks video that I really liked about the subject of how to find what’s fun for you:

“Nothing’s fun if you’re not tapped in, tuned in, turned on.
If you’re not lined up with energy first, everything seems hard.
But if you look for the fun first, if you look for the joy first, and are tapped in, tuned in, turned on, then everything you do will be life giving.”

Source: https://youtu.be/f4jQuvQmy-8?t=3m16s

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In other words they’re saying, try to uplift yourself from where you are, and then it will be easier for you to find things fun. After you’ve successfully uplifted yourself, from a happier state of mind, so many more things can be fun to you – even things you didn’t find fun before. It doesn’t matter what activity you choose to do, from your new uplifted state, you’ll be able to find the fun in any activity you do if you are closer to the vibration of fun withinin your mood in general.

It’s like something Bashar said: (I paraphrase here)

Don’t look for exciting things.
Instead train yourself to be IN excitement; to be in a state of excitement. And from this state everything will be exciting for you.
It’s not about finding the right *thing* that gets your mood to rise.
It’s about learning to raise your mood first, and then potentially any thing can appear to be the right thing that feels fun and exciting.

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But how do you uplift yourself from where you are now to a state where you’re in a happier state of mind from which you’ll be able to find the fun and find the joy in an easy way?

Here’s one possible 3-step method:

Step 1: Acknowledge you are where you are, and it’s ok.

Step 2: Work on releasing resistance

Work on releasing resistance by self-soothing the negative thoughts you have about the negative things in your life. Soften the negative feeling with thoughts that soften the negative thoughts.

eg. I know what I don’t want and what I don’t like, but that means a part of me knows what I do want, so maybe I can try to focus on what I DO want more… that could help me feel better. Wouldn’t it be nice to feel better? My uneasiness is just my inner guidance talking to me, showing me that my guidance system is working and helping to guide me towards something better. Everything’s going to be ok. I’ll figure it out and I don’t have to figure it out right now. My life is helping me figure out stuff. I like the idea that Source energy within me knows that there’s a way, and knows the way, and if I relax, I’ll be able to allow myself to hear its guidance more clearly to a better place. As I relax, ideas will occur to me, and I’ll be able to flow with it. It’s just a matter of relaxing. I can relax. I’m feeling a little better already…

Step 3: Focus on something positive.

Focusing on anything that feels good. Even if it’s a tiny bit good.

Start with something that feels light and good – even if it’s just a little good. Even 1% good is better than 0% good. It doesn’t matter how small or frivalous that thing is. If you focus on something that has even a hint of feel-good factor to it, it will help that vibration grow and with more momentum, it will help you tune into “fun”.

eg 1. I want to find out how my friend is doing maybe I’ll get in touch with them… It’s always interesting to hear how they’re doing…
(That thought contains interest, and interest can be energizing, stimulating and a little more feel-good than lower-vibration states of mind.).

eg 2. I’m kinda craving chocolate right now. Mmm chocolate.. (and then the flow starts towards more positive feelings of desire and tastiness).

eg 3. It’s nice and quiet outside. I like how peaceful the quiet is.
(And then that can help springboard you into other things you like and appreciate in your world.)

etc. etc.

Use words that you believe in your soothing statements.

For example:

“I want to feel love for myself” has less wobbles than “I love myself”

“I want to believe that we’re a good match” has less wobble than “I know I’m a good match with this person”

“I would like to trust that the universe is looking out for me” has less wobble in it than “I believe that the universe is looking out for me”.

It’s important to choose words you can believe in; words that have the least amount of wobble to help you get to the better-feeling-place rather than just saying words that you don’t believe. Take the time to tune in to the feelings of the pivot-phrases you use and pick your words to make them words you can say comfofortably and FEEL and believe their truth completely.

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Also, sometimes, if you’re way down the emotional guidance scale, the most soothing words may be something relatively “not very spiritual-sounding” and what some judgemental folk may consider to be “unenlightened”.

For example, if you’re down in Anger, a little rant can help.
AbeForumer Cosmic suggested a rant regarding anger at unjust rules in an institution such as a school or office that really helped me when I was in Anger so I thought I’d share it with you. The suggestions was that the rant can go something like this:

“There are too many stupid rules in this place, no one tells me clearly what they are, who the hell is running this place anyway?!… These rules are silly. I have formed a preference that I don’t want to follow them and that’ OK! Because I get to have preferences! These rules are quite ridiculous…but I won’t always be here, in this place. These rules are silly…but I’ve been in other places before and I will be again.”
“These rules are silly…but while I work on feeling better about other, softer topics…I’m actually doing my vibrational work on this topic, too.”

This kind of rant may help release the initial anger and give some relief and soothing from the negative emotion, so is an important step towards feeling better before you continue your pivoting in the more “spiritually-sounding-statements” way. The vibrational relief comes first and then the more rational thoughts becomes available. If you just intellectually think something good, but don’t feel it, then it is not doing much.

If you reach too far up the scale for statements that are up in Reason, Understanding, Forgiveness etc, but you’re really in Anger, the words won’t be super effective in soothing you in a big way. It may appear that the Forgiveness soothing statementis more enlightened, but if it doesn’t resonate with you strongly, chances are it won’t soothe you very effectively. It may help a little, maybe soothing a tiny bit but maybe you’ll find yourself dipping back down in emotions fairly quickly or feeling like the issue is still unresolved fully. The most powerfully soothing words are usually closer to where you really are on the Emotional Guidance Scale, and these kinds of words can help you have a more sustained pivot that leaves the issue feeling more fully resolved.

1.) Because you’re already vibrating near irritation:
On the emotional scale, we often fluctuate from one set point to another at different points in our lives. During the times when we find ourselves attracting annoyances and irritation into our lives, it means that we’re vibrating round about those levels close to irritation already – teetering on the brink of it, often experiencing emotions like frustration, impatience, overwhelment, disappointment and / or worry. Once you deliberately pivot your thoughts more positively and uplift yourself to a more positive emotional state (eg around neutrality, courage, trust and higher); once you’re vibrating at a higher level you will not be able to rendez vous with irritation so often any more.

2.) Because what you see is a mirror for something in your vibration
If you look in more detail at *what* is irritating you – the specifics of it – it can be meaningful because it’s often reflecting back to you something that’s already active in your vibration.

For example: Say the situation is that you get irritated because you have someone in your life who is often pointing out every time you say something negative and is labelling you as a “negative nelly”. It’s not a coincidence that you’ve rendez voused with this experience. Any form of criticism tells you “you’re not doing a good job at something” or “you’re not good enough”, so at the core of it, it may be linked to low self-esteem and low confidence in yourself.

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A few ways to pivot yourself in a more positive direction:

a.) Concentrate on the positive aspects of the irritating person:
If there’s a specific irritating person, focus on their positive aspects in particular to attract positive experiences in your interactions with them.

eg. Person X is good at his job. He’s really talented with numbers. I admire that he is great at focusing on something and seeing it through till the end. He has a strength to him when he doesnt give up easily. I like it when he laughs – it brightens and lightens the mood around us. etc etc

b.) Use positive self-talk to soothe yourself about your sensitive subjects
Make peace with the things that push your buttons by pivoting positively about those subjects that you’re sensitive about. Train yourself and practice being easier about things, being kinder to yourself about them and doing lots of positive self-talk about them in a wobble-free way. Eventually you can train your vibration to a higher level on these topics until they will no longer push your buttons.

eg. Say your sensitive spot is making mistakes and being picked on for doing something wrong. You could pivot that by saying something like this: Everyone makes mistakes sometimes. I would like to believe that people are generally kind and would allow for the fact that everyone makes a mistake sometimes. I know that although I may have made a mistake, I’m still a good worker overall. I know I am analytical and good with words. I get on well with people. There are so many good things about me! So this little mistake is really a small, insignificant thing in the large scale of things. etc etc

Tip for pivoting: Self-talk with the words “I would like to believe that…” or “I would like to trust that…” is softer and easier to say to yourself convincingly than saying “I believe that…” or “I trust that…” or “I know that…” which may be empty words. It’s important to find words you can believe and feel to be true for this method to work.