So when someone is saying negative stuff about someone else (it doesn’t matter they’re talking about a celebrity, politician, a colleague, a friend, or family member), what does it mean if it feels bad to you to hear this negative stuff about them?
Here are a few possible ideas of why hearing criticism about others feels bad:
1.) Bad feeling means you’re going DOWN the emotional scale
It means you want things that feel good and are aware that this negativity is lower on the emotional scale than you are naturally, and so it doesn’t feel like relief, it feels bad. It means that negativity is a step away from Well-Being from where you are right now.
2.) Bad feeling could mean non-alignment with higher truth
It could mean that the words don’t resonate as true with your higher self, and the words feel “not right” because perhaps they aren’t entirely right. Perhaps the behaviour of that person that is being judged is not a 100% true representation of who that person really is.
3.) Bad feeling could mean non-alignment with what you want
It means the negative words are resisting something that you want. Perhaps what you want is to think well of the person (even if the negative points they are accused of are also fair and true). Perhaps what you want is to give the person a fair chance (even if they turn out to be guilty as charged in the end). The facts almost don’t matter; all that matters is what YOU want.
Here’s an example of this point #3:
In some cases the negative observations may be true, but you may not be ready to see them. Perhaps you’re in a type of denial about it and don’t want to see the negativity. This has been the case in the past in some reality shows like The Bachelor. I remember one story where the guy, Ben was warned by the other girls in the house who were competing for his hand, that his favorite girl (Courtney) was trouble (and she was judging by her behaviour that was filmed for the show), but Ben didn’t want to hear. What he wanted was to believe that she was right for him, because she was attractive and seemed sweet and he was attracted to her. He was focused on her positive aspects which were aligned with what he wanted; so hearing the negativity about her which wasn’t in line with what he wanted made him feel bad.
As Abraham say: “As you are deliberately looking for positive aspects in yourself or in others, you will find more of those things: The better it gets, the better it gets.”
In the end he chose to ignore all warnings, went with what he wanted, and picked her as his final choice as “the one” for him. Was he right to ignore the warnings? Well, in the end he saw that she wasn’t right for him and that the warnings about her were true.
According to the law of attraction, Ben saw the best in Courtney, and attracted only positive experiences with her initially as a result, even though other people around her manifested a different experience with her because they had different expectations of her.
So if Ben manifested the best version of Courtney that was aligned with what he wanted, why did they split up eventually? I can only speculate, but perhaps it was due to his belief in Courtney starting to waver and uncertainty about her creeping in as they spent more time together or as the noise from the public’s negative opinion of her became more dominant in his vibration. Accordingly to his change in certainty, she showed a different side of herself to match his wavering opinions of her, and eventually they split up.